5 Lessons from Heartbreak

Whether it be family, a lover, or a friend the sad reality is that being hurt by someone you care about is inevitable. Recently, I experienced constant disappointment from someone who I called friend. For someone who likes to pretend not to have any emotions I must say I took it the opposite of well. So, what do I do, you may ask? Capitalize off my pain like any good writer.

Lesson 1: Heartbreak is Temporary – It may not feel that way, you may not want to hear it but its true. A broken heart eventually heals. In the moment it seems like everything is tumbling down. You may even question why life decided to reward you with the unfortunate pleasure of heartbreak. As you grow, mend, and put down the ice-cream and cookies you’ll realize that bit by bit you start to feel normal again.

Lesson 2: You’re Stronger Than You Think – Remember that even in what you consider to be your weakest moments you possess the ability to change. Allow yourself to properly process your emotions but don’t stay in a funk for too long. It will be tough but making the conscious effort to pull yourself out of an unfavorable situation is within your grasp.

Lesson 3: There’s Always Room for Gratitude – Now I know this may be a bit of an unusual perspective, but heartbreak taught me to appreciate the good that already existed in my life. I spent so much time focusing on what I lacked that the daily mercies I was awarded went straight on the back burner. This caused me to be sad and miserable consistently. But that changed one I began to shift my thinking. Count your blessings, you might just realize how blessed you truly are.

Lesson 4: You Are Enough – In the moment of heartbreak we sometimes have a tendency to question our value. Always remember that their mistreatment is not a direct reflection of who you are as a person. You are enough. Matter of fact, you are more than enough. Never let your pain define your self-worth.

Lesson 5: Healing is Your Responsibility – You didn’t break your heart, but it is your responsibility to fix it. Is it fair? Absolutely not, but it is needed in order to move on in peace. Don’t sit and wait for the “closure” that may not come, take your mental and emotional wellbeing into your own hands. Trust me, you will be better for it.

I’m no expert in psychology but with my experience I think I may be able to secure a management level job in “heartbreak”. Everyone’s process is different. My reaction may very well not be yours, but I wanted to share to touch if just one person.